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04/13/2018 By Donna 14 Comments

I Can’t Have Children

Filed Under: Endometriosis

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I Can’t Have Children

I Can't Have Children

Holding my nephew

From the time I was a little girl I dreamed of being a Mommy. I also dreamed of being a doctor, a teacher, an artist, a marine biologist, and more. The occupational dreams changed, but the dream of motherhood never did.

12 years ago I got married and we talked about having a family.  Then we tried to have a family.  Members of our family asked if we were pregnant, when we were going to start a family, and other innocent questions.  I never had an answer except for that we were trying and that we would hopefully have children some day.

I Can't Have Children

One of my sweet nephews

Some day.

As the days and years went on I still couldn’t get pregnant. We tried and I saw two different infertility specialists. I have endometriosis. Not only does it cause me tremendous pain it has also destroyed my reproductive system. I’ve seen a specialist who will help me by removing the endometriosis, but he’ll also have to take my uterus.  There is so much endometriosis that when he removes it my uterus won’t be any good.

Turns out my some day will never come. I know that I can adopt or foster children, but it’s not the same as carrying a child for 9 months in my own womb. (These are options that we will look into after my surgery).

I Can't Have Children

There’s only two reasons that people don’t have children. 1. They can’t or 2. They don’t want them. They may want them in the future, but not at the present time which is why they don’t have them.

As a society we put a lot of pressure on women to have families. We’re constantly asking when young couples will start a family or ask couples why they don’t have kids. It’s awkward and uncomfortable and really no one’s business except the couples’. Yes, I’m sharing my story, but not everyone is able to.

Infertility is devastating. It kills the hopes and dreams of those wanting children. And yet we don’t always talk about it. It’s embarrassing and makes those suffering from it feel weak and inadequate.

I am not weak. I am not inadequate. I can’t have children.

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  1. Casey Garvey says

    05/06/2018 at 9:16 pm

    I am very sorry about the loss of your ability to get pregnant. I lost my 6 month old son in 2013, and cant move past it.

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    • Donna says

      05/07/2018 at 3:10 pm

      I can’t even imagine! I’m so sorry for your loss. xo

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  2. Lauryn R says

    04/16/2018 at 10:58 am

    My best friend and roommate from college had this as well. She had the surgery done last year. Being a young woman and never being able to have kids herself certainly broke my heart for her. However, she is such an amazing and strong woman (as you are as well) and my kids and I are so blessed to have her in our lives! Many hugs and positive vibes to you!

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  3. Jeni F. says

    04/14/2018 at 11:47 am

    We love you and are proud of you too. I’m so sorry for the diagnosis. Hopeful that your pain will end

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  4. Laura Weers says

    04/14/2018 at 7:03 am

    You are a wonderful ,loving and caring woman. I know God has amazing plans for you.
    Love You , Laura

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  5. Carol Jones says

    04/13/2018 at 8:24 pm

    Took us 9 years and IVF to finally have my twins. I know that it will never happen again and I am not sure how I feel about that. IF is such a terrible road, I understand…

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  6. Mitch says

    04/13/2018 at 7:42 pm

    This is a very brave post. I don’t know about the carrying a fetus for nine months situation, but I can tell you that I adopted an infant at birth and have been a “mom” for almost 15 years and it is all I ever dreamed about. You can’t get that nine months, but I am living the alternative.

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  7. Martha Joslin says

    04/13/2018 at 7:14 pm

    Donna, God is using all of this and you will in fact touch and help MANY women have or will be walking the same journey as you. God bless you for your humility and willingness to address this painful topic that thousands don’t even know how to express, but are broken and alone feeing that no one could possibly understand how they fell. You are expressing it so beautifully . Keep writing Donna! God has a marvelous plan for you!

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  8. Beth Ann Chiles says

    04/13/2018 at 7:13 pm

    All the love coming your way. You are in no way inadequate. You are perfect. And I am very proud of you. ??

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    • Beth Ann Chiles says

      04/13/2018 at 7:14 pm

      Proud of you with exclamation marks !!! Not ??. Fat finger syndrome!

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    • Donna says

      04/13/2018 at 7:27 pm

      Thank you, I love you!!

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  9. Melissa says

    04/13/2018 at 7:05 pm

    I love you!!

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  10. Katy F says

    04/13/2018 at 6:55 pm

    I am so sorry! Love you!!!

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  11. Val - Corn, Beans, Pigs & Kids says

    04/13/2018 at 11:00 am

    HUGS!!! Love you Donna!

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